I will write about living and being born in NYC and being Chinese and Cuban.
The rejection comes from ones own race. I grew up that way and it was painful. Our parents forced us to attend Chinese school in Chinatown. At the time my brother and I were the ONLY two who were not 100% Chinese and boy did we look it:)..they also reminded us everyday.
You know what was one of the first things we learned..Wow! now that we are learning chinese we are listening to all the racial statements they were making about us in front of our faces! but the best part was letting them know I understood what they were saying. At this point the apologies meant nothing.
Only ignorance is what we were faced with every day . My brother quit after a year or two. I went on for 6 yrs!!! did that make anything better? for myself it was the confirmation that racism is skin deep no matter what you are.
Growing up I learned about Racisim~ White vs Black. O.K so this has gone for centuries.. long song and dance has gone on forever and still goes on.
But the world needs to know when you are rejected or discriminated against by your own race..there is nothing worst than that.. It’s like “but Hello, I am Chinese?” no not really is what I wish I had been taught as I grew up.I grew up with the “Look”~” oh you no “Chinese” or ” You too dark”You have black skin” all this and more was said to me and my brothers by all chinese we met or ran into..:)* Didn’t even matter how old were either.
Growing up this way is even harder on my sons! As soon as their school showed 90% Asian population I pulled them out! Yes I did. when I was younger we had more Cantonese Chinese people who were prejudice but now the Taiwanese are even more racist and I was just not going to allow that to happen to my sons. A situation once happened when my middle son wanted a playdate with his Chinese classmate(2nd grade). The classmate kept asking for this so one day after school the Chinese moms got together and were talking about my son’s skin color and how “we” claim to be Chinese” This made me angry , but I restrained myself, in order to not make a scene in front of my son. I turned around and gently informed them in “Chinese” not to talk about us and they were shocked!!!When I picked up my son from his playdate he said he didn’t have a fun time and I told him..don’t worry you never have to come back.We smiled and walked away.
So People! these parents that think like this and behave this way will only go on and teach their children to do the same. I will not allow it around my sons.
I have even witnessed it with my nieces and nephews when they were little they lived in a very integrated neighborhood and they were told by their maternal grandmother not to play with the “black” kids in the palyground~ mind you “black” meant anything darker than a cappuccino! ok..
They told their dad(my brother) about it and he was furious and told his mother in law to never every teach them that. he told his kids they can play with anyone and of any color!
20 years later..they pretty much associate with Chinese 90% of the time.Their parents divorced a long long time ago. She was Chinese.
So yes we have a big responsibilty to our children~ to keep our children’s heart and eyes wide open from all this drama and pain that will come no matter what!
Mixed cultures need to stand together not APART!